4 Qualities for Real Magic

I was recently re-reading the Book "Real Magic" by Wayne Dyer and I thought I would share with you what he calls the 4 Qualities for real magic in relationship.

The first quality is:

RELINQUISH YOUR NEED TO BE RIGHT

Here are some thoughts from him on that. He offers the reminder that our children need to be guided, not made wrong. So, perhaps consider how you speak to your children.

He suggests that if we want to witness miracles, to simply let go of the need to be right for a few days. Just listen to others and watch how things go differently both in your own life and in your relationships.

The second quality is:

ALLOW SPACE

He encourages letting there be space in your togetherness and to treat that space as sacred, not a threat. He says that the more space you allow, ironically the more the relationship will flourish.

The third quality is:

ELIMINATE THE IDEA OF OWNERSHIP

He says to seek time to enjoy each other , not possess each other. And reminds us that we do not have the right to tell people what they ought to be doing while they are here on earth. He states you do not have a real relationship if either partner feels owned or like a possession.

The forth quality (and the one I found most fascinating and difficult) is:

KNOW THAT YOU DO NOT HAVE TO UNDERSTAND

He says you do not have to understand why someone else would want to do and think the way they do and offers the suggested mantras of, "I do not understand and it is fine" or "I don't think that way, but they do. I love them not because they are like me, but because they provide me with what I am not. I honor that part of them than is incomprehensible to me."

I had a little miracle yesterday as the result of practicing these principles. I will share a quote on miracles.

"Where there is great love there are always miracles. Miracles rest no so much upon faces or voices or healing powers coming to us from afar, but on our perceptions being made finer, so that for a moment our eyes can see and our ears can hear what is there about us always." Willa Carter

Enjoy the sunshine today! Namaste

Let's play!

Here is an amazing show of animal instinct and proof that

the "lamb" really can lie down with the "lion".......


http://speakingoffaith.publicradio.org/programs/play/audiogallery/soundseen.shtml#slideshow

A Human Being.....Love

What quiet wonder I sit in these days. Emotions come and go and I can just watch them, even choosing to let them move consciously, freely, unobstucted through me whether what they bring is tears...or smiles. This journey within, home to myself has been fascinating to witness and partake of. Sometimes it has almost been like watching a play with me in it. Years ago, I found an Alanis Morissette song entitled, "That I Would Be Good". At the time it was something I wanted for myself, but didn't possess. Now, although it's not 24/7, it's probably 23/7 that I can accept and love myself despite my humanness. The gift of it all, is in loving and accepting myself, I received the unexpected presence of unconditional love for others. In seeing and embracing with self-compassion my own vulnerability and be soft with my expectations of myself, I can allow others the same. We are all just soft, mushy centers and I am beginning to see that the hardness of others that I experience is not so much a reflection on their rejection of me, but their own external, protective armoring, protecting their own soft centers; always placed initially for good reason. When and if they choose to break it down is of no consequence to me, unless invited. Can I love myself, and them, in my own and in their armoring, and stay present to it all? I have reconnected with an inner knowing which allows me to trust the pace and course of each day, knowing that when it's time to evolve, or sometimes even dissolve, it will happen without any help from me.

The prompting surfacing lately has been a quiet, "Be Love"

Barbara Marx Hubbard first exposed me to the concept of a Prime Question. Right now I seem to be seeping in the question, "What can love heal?" For years I have used what I have come to see as Yang energy, trying to help the human body how to heal. Now, with my body not so keen on deep tissue bodywork, I seem to be lead into exploring the more Yin energy of healing through the power of love. And so it goes....and where it leads, not even I know.

I share with you that song. I invite you to listen and enjoy and enter the journey...

How can you open to self-love and acceptance?
Where are you being harsh with yourself?
Where do you need to give yourself a break?
How does that same behavior or attitude show up in your relationship with others?

Do I judge others value...when they 'do nothing' or I don't approve of their behavior? Judge their mental or physical health, their body size or shape?
Just take one day, perhaps even one hour and watch your thoughts....how are you judging yourself and others?

Free Hugs!

Tomorrow, July 5th is International Free Hugs Day!

Celebrate!

The Ethics of Eating

I enjoy listening to the weekly radio show "Speaking of Faith". This week's show was an interview with Barbara Kingsolver, whose family chose to eat for a year from what they could grow themselves (or get locally). It stirred my thoughts, as I strive to decrease my own carbon footprint. Lots to think about for sure.......

It's an entertaining interview...check it out! The Ethics of Eating